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I came out to my friend!

So yesterday I was getting kind of anxious about deciding to come out to my best friend, and all you wonderful GTers chimed in with encouragement and belief to help me stay strong. Thank you so so much for being there for me and helping me pluck up the courage to tell her - I did and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in my life!


Because I’m in the UK and she lived in the US, she Skyped me when she left work yesterday as she was walking home - I tried to make a little bit of small talk but I think she sensed something was up, so I just took a deep breath, and said “[friend], I’m transgender.” I was expecting her to be supportive and understanding, but it was so much beyond what I was expecting. She literally screamed for joy and was jumping up and down in the middle of the sidewalk, and I couldn’t help but do the same here :) Just to illustrate how awesome my friend is, the first thing she said (after 60 seconds of “YAAAAY!”) was to ask me what name and pronouns I wanted her to use, which felt just so great!

We talked for a while, but we were both so giddy with happiness that there wasn’t a lot to say other than how happy we were. I even showed her my dress and she told me I looked pretty, which I know is a vain thing to be proud of, but for the very first time in my real life I felt like another human being was seeing and treating me like a woman. When we hung up I was just jumping around my flat, alternating between flapping my arms about like a lunatic and flopping on my bed like a (happy) flounder. Last night and today I’ve felt so confident and special, and I went shopping in town and for the whole time I was out I didn’t feel the need to put on boy mode and be on defence, even when I bumped into a workmate and had to make awkward conversation :)


I just wanna say thank you to every single one of you who sent your kind words and thoughts my way - I wouldn’t have been able to do it without you! The positivity and encouragement you gave me and the love and support of my friend were the best birthday presents a gal could ask for <3

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